Desirule

A healthy relationship with desirules sounds like this:

Think of it as an . While society has laws, and your mind has habits, desirules operate at the intersection of motivation and morality. They answer the question: “Is it okay for me to want this?” desirule

A (n.) – A personal, often unconscious, governing principle that dictates which desires are permissible, which are shameful, which must be pursued, and which must be suppressed. A healthy relationship with desirules sounds like this:

“This kept me safe in a household where my needs were ignored. Now I am an adult with resources and agency.” and your mind has habits

Once you’ve identified a desirule, examine it through four lenses: