I have talked more couples out of divorce than into it. Not because I am pro-marriage at all costs—I have also helped couples separate with grace. But because so many of you come to my office exhausted, not broken. You have confused burnout with the end of love.
New counselors fear shouting. They fear thrown pillows and slammed doors. I have learned to fear the couples who sit three feet apart, staring at the floor, communicating in monosyllables. Silence is not peace. Silence is the freeze response of a dying marriage. confessions of a marriage counselor